Why do I love these people?

If life holds a treasure, it is not behind the gates of country clubs, or in the boardrooms of corporations, or in the classrooms of great universities. It is in the air we all breathe, in the experiences we all share. It is available to all of humanity. There is nothing esoteric about it; unlocking that treasure does not require a special language, or any privilege at all. To do this is not godly; rather, it is utterly human. It is for people like you, and me.

I wasn't fully taught what love was. There is a yearning to fill our gaps, to make up for what we missed. We were all taught parts; the rest we have to decipher.

Thanks to fairy tales, we indulge an overly romantic ideal that only sets us up for disenchantment. We believe the right spouse can be chosen out of a lineup, and that this rightness is inherent to the chemistry of two personalities - that it is fully formed right away, as if at first sight, rather than formed over years and dedcades of living together.

We are afraid of commitment because we think everything has to be right before we commit.

We believe that by picking someone who wants the same things as we do, those things will actually happen.