Smart fool

Going beyond the line is what makes people furious.

Some people would never know what they have been doing is from a wrong perspective. Yet, did something improperly is minor if comparing to the ignorance of not understanding why it is wrong and claim themselves as irreproachable. This is not innocence but immaturity of mind, or simply, stupidity.

As a sensible man, we have to think about the consequence of every word we are going to say, both good and bad sides outcome and impact on the others, not merely positioning one who has been given the right to say whatever to whomever.

No doubt under certain circumstances, sharing is important but one should know the extent, and more important, the difference between sharing and propagation.

What is the good of telling everyone so-called the truth, which is thought to be ought-to-tell but it is not? What is the good to yourself and the others by telling everyone how bad the subject had treated you? Does it make people feel relief? I don’t think so. Expressing the feeling of unfairness or heroically think you may save the others may be one concern, but are you really doing a greater good, or making things worse?

Never thinks as things will sooner or later be exposed by someone else, so it’s better for me to be the first mover. It is the stupidest thought, ever. How do you know the others want to share such information?

People may prefer not to know the whole truth in order to protect their own precious memories from being washed away. These memories being unwillingly destroyed by another’s foolish act is so unwelcome. You may not want to cherish, but never take away others’ will. This is just like stabbing at the yet bleeding heart or hammering others’ crystal ball while yours is broken. Expect people to express their thankfulness to your valuable insider secret? No matter it is unintentional, the harm is done and the storyteller can never claim to be innocent. If one still thinks this is unregretful, it just means he is yet far incapable of realizing his own stupidity.

Choosing who to tell is what a rational person should do. We are supposed to be matured enough to bear the bitterness of our own life. Families and friends are there to listen to us, but are we free to add too much burden to others? For people who always like to ‘share’ with others, you are free to share whatever about your own self, but never pulled another subject’s privacy into the loop. Endless claim is in fact victimizing not yourself but everyone. What’s the point here to tell everyone around? Gain support? Justify yourself? Gain sympathy? Condemning the others? Gather a gang to go against whom we should hate? Let’s fuel the fire together? Only losers who can’t face the reality would do so. That’s pathetic to arouse the crowd by picking up the first stone. You may say friends are all supporting you and yes, they are supportive, because everyone’s opinion is bound to be subjective.

Spreading to unrelated people is absolutely an unpardonable nuisance. That is the respect to other’s privacy and it is a common sense. Every act we do, it influences people to the extent that we may never expect. Intimate friends may be good listeners but who can guarantee what they are told will not be further told to someone unrelated? The chain consequence is beyond imagination. Dare you to tell me the password to your bank account, huh?

We ourselves are at our own stake, but we cannot be so not considerate and self-centered. Put yourself in other’s shoes, how hurt it would be if your privacy is being exposed to unrelated parties without getting your consent? How furious it would be if your friends are being disturbed? Who knows what had disastrously happened you, might be resulted by what you had done before?

Not saying to zip our lips tight and swallow everything even though we need some relief, but just we have to select the appropriate audience, more importantly, thinks what can be told and what cannot be. Minimize the impact to the others, not only to the subject, but your audience too. What has once been said, harm is already there. If you feel you are harmed, don’t further harm the others, don’t ruin others’ dreams if yours couldn’t last.

Never think you are the only one to whom this world owes, but you owe everyone who once paid sympathy on you. But now, they may take pity on your desperation and immaturity. By asking the others not to put all blames on you, try to think if you are really so blameless.

Don’t’ ever think it is righteous to condemn the subject as no one has the right to judge. Except for hatred and outrage, there is still another option available. Propagating how bad one had done to you doesn’t help reconciling the wound that had been done; it just makes things uglier till it is inexcusable spot in life.

Silence is gold, it’s always true. Try to shut the bigmouth and stop being a troublemaker of all and for the sake of all. As what had been done are irreversible, try to learn from mistake, tough one may never understand.